New Mexico Divorce Mediation Attorneys

Is Divorce Mediation Right for Your Case?

Divorce Mediation is not a good fit for couples that have a high degree of conflict or who cannot communicate. The parties must be able to communicate and cooperate to some degree because as you will see below, you will need to attend your initial consultation together.

Mediation is also not appropriate for cases involving domestic violence or other abusive situations. For most other cases, divorce mediation should at least be explored as the first option in your divorce.

The Advantages and Pitfalls of Divorce Mediation

• More expensive or less expensive? If you participate in a successful mediation, you will undoubtedly save money over a litigated, or contested divorce. However, if you participate in a lengthy divorce mediation and fail to reach an agreement, then end up going to court, you have essentially “lost” all of the fees you spent on mediation.
• Qualified or unqualified mediator? In New Mexico, you do not have to be an attorney to mediate a divorce case (but only an attorney can prepare the final legal documents). There is also no requirement to be licensed to perform mediations in this state. But, you should NEVER hire a non-lawyer to mediate your divorce case. Our firm has seen countless mistakes, errors, omissions, and just plain terrible agreements mediated by non-lawyers. We see them because we are the ones hired to clean up these messes. This is definitely a pitfall you need to watch out for.
• A much quicker process. A successful divorce mediation will save you a lot of time and a lot of fees over other types of divorce. It often takes many months to finalize a divorce. Our firm has completed many mediated divorces within 30 days.

Why Is It So Hard to Find a Good Divorce Mediator?

Successful divorce mediation requires a lot of different skills. First, obviously, is an ability to mediate issues for the parties. This is not something that is taught in law school. Divorce attorneys who provide mediation often undergo many hours of mediation training after law school and have worked hard to develop these skills and to avoid the traps that can sometimes sink the chances of a successful resolution. A great mediator will also understand all aspects of the law that applies to each case. And the very best mediators will provide creative solutions to help the parties reach an agreement. Finally, mediation is less lucrative for attorneys than litigation, so many lawyers and law firms are not willing to thoroughly develop this area of their practices.